7 Quicks Takes (7): The Online Dating Edition

Well, yes... I'm doing the online dating thing (again).  I figure I tell you all about the rest of my life... why not this, too?  Obviously, I am on the Catholic ones, and I have found that that really doesn't make a difference for anything.  So, here for my 7QTs this week, I am going to share some of the things that I have found annoying about the profiles and interactions that I have had areas of improvement, if you will.

(Disclaimer: I am in NO way an expert at dating, let alone online dating, so take the following with a grain of salt and a bit of my reality.)


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Being Catholic
Ok, guys (and ladies, I'm sure)... why are you on a CATHOLIC dating site if you are not Catholic... in that you don't go to Mass, you don't agree with the church's teachings, and really don't even seem to have a relationship with God.  I don't really understand it.  There are a ton of secular, non-Catholic/Christian sites out there.  What is the purpose of being on the Catholic website, if you really don't consider yourself Catholic?

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Grammar
Please, please, PLEASE check your spelling.  I mean, most of the sites HAVE the option to do it for you.  Use it.  Also, read your sentences and such OUT LOUD.  If you stumble over your words, or it doesn't make sense to you, think about how it looks to everyone else.  Or, have some one else take a look at it, as well, to help with glaring grammatical errors.  If you are serious about being on the site, take the time to make your profile look it's best.  It IS the first impression.  Make it snazzy.

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Show your personality
It's ok to crack a joke!  Add your favorite quotes!  Don't be shy.  The purpose of being on the site is to find your future wife (or husband for all the ladies), so she will be intrigued and/or impressed by those things.  I am sure it's those things that entice you, as well.

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Profile photo
Put one up!  It's a little creepy, not gonna lie, when someone 'views your profile' and they have no pic.  It's just weird.  To me, it shows that you haven't given much time or effort into your profile, and let's be honest, I won't even look at the rest.  So, make sure it's a good one (ie, not blurry, shows a smile, etc)... you are trying to make a GOOD, I care about this process, impression.

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Other photos
Speaking of pics... add more!  They give you an option for that... so, do it.  Pictures show off your personality better.  Things you like to do or see.  But, please, for all you guys, do not have a picture with other girls, unless it's your sister, cousin, etc. and you caption it as such.  It's just tacky, otherwise.  There is no need for it.  If you are pursuing a girl, she doesn't want to see you with other girls.  It gives off the player vibe- and no one wants that.

And, don't use pics of you partying, and what would be assumed to be drunk off your butt. Sends the wrong message, and maybe you should look elsewhere for your future spouse.

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Communication
If you like a girl, send her a message!  Most women want to be pursued.  Stop with the cute little emotigrams back and forth... send a real message.  Tell her the silly joke actually made you laugh.  Compliment her smile.  Something that shows effort.  Oh, you can't send the message because you haven't paid for full access?  Hmm... well, that's unfortunate.  Again, if this is something that you are serious about, and you want to help God out in this way, then pay for the darn subscription.  This may or may not be how the Lord will have you meet, but at least you are being completely open to the idea.  That few extra dollars that you spent on this, instead of guys night at the bar, would be worth it if you found the lucky lady, right?!

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For the older men
I didn't say old, ok?  I am talking about the older men, as in 40s on up, who contact the girls in their 20s.  Please don't.  It's really creepy.  I know that you, too, are looking for your wife, but please stick with your own age group.  Unless of course those girls in their 20s have said in their profiles that they are looking for older men, then by all means!  But, this girl, here... not so much.


That's what I got here!  Have I missed anything?  What has been your experience?  Online dating is really fun, but you have to weed out the guys who aren't really into it.  I pray for all of you and your journeys.  I pray that God will continue to bless you, give you patience and courage as you go through the dating process, online or in real life. ;)

As always, please don't forget to check out Jen, and everyone else, over at Conversion Diary for more 7 Quick Takes!

2 comments :

  1. Never did the online dating thing, but oh- the stories I hear. Of course, I've heard many a success story too! It's a colorful world.

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  2. I walked into my grandma's house last night and the first thing she said to me was "I'm going to sign you up for Christian Mingle." I'll have to keep your tips in mind if she actually does go through with it ;)

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