And you know what? I was them probably a year ago. I had those same thoughts/feelings/judgements about the hippie world that I didn't even know much about. When you are so immersed in the world of medicine, that is the ONLY way. Ya know? They only teach you the bad things that happen with the babies not born in a hospital, who don't have access to medical care, who don't get vaccinated, who don't use a bottle, etc, etc. There isn't a balance of all the good that happens, too. That it IS possible to birth a beautiful, healthy baby outside of the hospital. There are kids out there that don't get those diseases if they aren't vaccinated. It happens. It does.
I have Martha to thank for opening up my world. I always knew that she would be doing natural/birth-center births, and was a little worried, but more excited to witness it. That never happend b/c Zuzu came so quick, but everything else that Mart has taught me has been really awesome and eye-opening. It really has. Does that mean I will adopt this new way of life when I get pregnant and have some babes of my own? Maybe. But, maybe not. All I can say is that I am open to it. And, I don't think that people who choose to live their lives this way are as weird and crazy as I once thought.
So, now that this has been the LONGEST intro for some Quick Takes, like, ever... I thought I would talk about some stereotypes that were addressed at the hospital the other day.
~ 1 ~
People who don't birth in the hospital don't really know what's happening and are dumb.
From what I can tell, people who choose to birth in a BC (birthing center) or even at home, have done extensive research to figure out what will work best for them and their families. Mostly, they want the freedom to have a say in HOW they birth and want people to respect and support their decisions. Unfortunately they don't always have that in the hospital setting.
~ 2 ~
It's dangerous to birth in the water!
While I agree it does seem unnatural, it's not really that horrible for the mom OR the baby.
I have heard many moms say that birthing in water was actually really relaxing and helped them get through the pain of labor. And, once the babe comes out, it's not like they are just hanging out in the water for a while. I mean, that would just be mean. As far as I know, the babes are taken out of the water pretty quickly and given to the mom for some cuddle time.
Now, if you want to say that is dirty and messy... well, I mean there is a lot of blood and stuff. Births ARE pretty messy. But, Mart said at her BC, the water is constantly being refilled with clean water. So, there's that!
~ 3 ~
Just b/c you birth at a BC and do a water birth means you are SO crunchy and hippie!
Well, I am just going to go out on a limb and say that's just not true. I think it's prettttty stereotypical to clump people into a category. You can natural birth at a BC and be all about vaccines and eating processed food and all that. Or vice versa. Just b/c you do one thing doesn't mean you automatically will do the others.
~ 4 ~
They will definitely be using cloth diapers! Gross.
Again... you can't just assume that. Come on! Really?!
And, cloth diapers are so cute.
I thought they were really weird, too. But, they really aren't that bad. Yes, a bit more laundry. But what is cuter than a baby's chunky(er) bottom with polka-dots or fun colors?! NOTHING!
|You can wear them like pants!|
They just add so much to an outfit, really!
|I thought you could see it better... but you can't. Oh well.|
~ 5 ~
These are the kids that will be bouncing back and getting sick.
(Referring to not getting the eye ointment and not vaccinating)
I mean... can you really say that? I know a ton of parents who opt-out of the eye ointment and their kids are not blind, and who don't vaccinate and their kids and don't have polio or measles or whatever.
The eye ointment is really needed if the mom has a diagnosed STD. If she doesn't, why goop their eyes up? Those are my thoughts!
~ 6 ~
There is no medical care and they don't receive it!
Huh?? Well, if we are just going by this patient, then that's just silly. The babe was receiving care within a few HOURS of the babe's arrival into this world... they were helping her AT the BC and when they realized she needed further care, they sent her to the hospital. That's what would have happened anyway, right?
And, the babe is FINE! She was home just a few hours after I left them in the morning.
If it's a good BC that has attentive midwives, then they know when further care is needed for mommy AND baby. If they don't, then that should be of consideration to you. (Unless of course you don't want ANY medical care... then, well, that's up to you. I would hope that if there is concern for baby and mom, then further care would be taken. But, that is something that NEEDS to be discussed when planning for the birth. Who am I? I shouldn't make the decisions. The families should.)
~ 7 ~
They NEED to be eating. Their blood sugar is so low and stuff.
Well, yes. It is important that they eat, they also need to sleep. I don't know how I will be when I have my own babies, but I am not as anal as I used to be about pushing the babe to eat every couple of hours. If the babe wants to sleep, let him sleep! He/she will get hungry and ask for food. There is SO much happening in the life of the little babe that I am sure all they really want to do it sleep. I mean, if that persists for a long period of time (ie longer than 24 hours) then maybe it's time to encourage the babe a little more, ya know?
So, you see... a lot of things were said that may just not be true, ya know? I finally understand why hippie/crunchy people don't want to be in the hospital or go to the doctor. They are judged and are not taken seriously. They don't just arbitrarily choose to live their life like that. They research and figure out what is best for them and their families. I think that's what we all want to do, and they are no different.
While I was a bit frustrated at first having the convos with my coworkers, I am glad I did. It reminded me that I was exactly like them not too long ago, and I am glad that I have a broader perspective. Again, who knows what I will choose when I am pregnant, but I am glad that I have more of a solid understanding of the different ways to birth.
With all this pregnancy/baby talk... it reminds me that there are quite a few congrats in order around the bloggy world!!
First to Martha from Romancing Rielly! She and her hubby just welcomed their son, Sebastian, into the world! :) He is just adorable!
And then to all the preggos... Dwija from House Unseen!
Caitlin from Catholic Cookie Jar! She has the cutest reveal video of her family! :)
Stephanie from Captive the Heart!
Jenny from Mama Needs Coffee!
And, I am sure there are a ton more! So many prayers for your littles, you and your families!! Such an exciting time! Eeeeeee!!!
Thanks to Jen for allowing me to go onnnnnnn and onnnnnn for this weeks Takes! :) And for hosting, of course! Check her out for other quick takers AND to congratulate her for writing a book that will be published by Ignatius... ya know, the Pope's publisher. THAT is a big.flipping.deal. :)
Happy Memorial Day!!! Thanks to all the men and women who serve our country every.single.day. God Bless You!
Disclaimer: I haven't actually done a whoooole lotta research into any one area mentioned. These are my opinions based on my experiences and experiences of friends. It is not my intention to debate any one thing or offend anyone. I hope I have come across that way!