Dear good, holy, single Catholic men (well, I guess all good men out there, but this is geared towards the Catholic variety!),
There is something on my heart. Something I need to share... I would like to take a moment to apologize. Yes, apologize. On behalf of us, single ladies.
I have recently noticed, among the young, single Catholic ladies (maybe including me)- who feel that marriage is the Lord's will for them- there seems to be a lot of resentment or frustration with you all. Yes... you as a whole population.
It's hard sometimes, being single. Especially when you feel so confidently that the Lord is calling you to this vocation. It's hard waiting, wondering when that wonderful day will be when you enter our lives. Do you find that it's hard, too?
Gosh, you know what I have noticed? That during this time of waiting... we sometimes get frustrated and mad and annoyed that we aren't married yet. All of my friends are married. They have been married for years. Have a kid... or two... or three. I am 28, I'm no spring chicken anymore! I think you can see where I am going. In our frustrations, you know who we seem to blame?
You aren't pursuing us. Marriage actually freaks you out. You don't want to commit. You don't want to get to know us. You suck at communication. You. You. You.
If you have come across a post or tweet or article that blames you. I am so sorry. It's not fair.
The thing is. There really isn't anyone to blame. I mean, we can... we can blame God. But, who wants to do that? No one. If we, as Catholics, really believe in having a call from the Lord - a vocation- then, we have to trust the Lord in His timing.
Yes, it's hard. It does suck sometimes. But, you are not to blame. We are not to blame. There isn't anyone to blame as to whyyyyy we aren't married yet. Which, of course, sucks in and of itself.
I just want you to know, I believe in you. I know you are out there. You love women, but know how to respect us. We aren't just something you win. You want to pursue us. You are ready for marriage. You value the sanctity of marriage as a new beginning, not the end of your life. You love kids. You love the faith. You live the faith. You are proud of the faith. You know what you want. And if you don't, you are actively pursuing the Lord's will in your life.
I am praying for you.
A Catholic Single Lady