NAS: For the LOVE of friendship

I was really excited to write this post.  When Nikki gave us the topic suggestion to explore what love is... we thought we'd try to narrow it down and just talk about the love between friends.  When I was in college, I took one theology class, Friendship, Marriage and God, the ONE that everyone said you should take.  Being a nursing major, there really isn't time to take anything else OTHER than nursing things... so, when I fit it in my last semester, senior year, I was stoked.

That class pulled me and stretched me and challenged me and brought me closer to the Lord.  (Although if you ask some of my friends who were also in that class with me, they would tell you how frustrated they were b/c the prof wasn't alwayssss teaching Catholic teaching in the best way. But... I didn't pick up on that so much. Oh well....)

THE paper we had to write was to define love.  That's it.  Our professor didn't really give us much else to go on.  So, you just want me to define love?  Um, what?  Up to that point, pretty much all of the papers that I had written were research or something concrete in the nursing world.  Um, nothing as big and open-ended as... love.

It was rough.  To say the least.  We read some great books during that class... and I really learned a lot about what Christian love is all about.  In my paper, one of the examples I gave was the love of friends.  So, this topic is near and dear to my heart.  And, if ONLY I could actually find that paper.  But, alas! I cannot.  So, I am going to write on a whim... see where the Holy Spirit leads me.

Alright.  Well, first... I truly believe love is an action.  To love... to love is to give of yourself.  Obviously this will look different with each relationship you have.  But the large umbrella definition is to give of yourself.

To love someone is to be all about the other person.  It is not selfish.

So, within a friendship... you want the best for your friend.  You serve them.  You do things for them.  You encourage them.  You pray for them.  And, sometimes... you even challenge them and hold them accountable.  Because you want the best for them (and they for you, I hope!), you may have to step outside of yourself and your comfort zone to reach them where they are.

Now, you cannot give this love without receiving it.  It's a two way street.  To give and give and give without knowing what love in return, is a pretty bad state of affairs.  But, that love you receive may not come from the person you love... they may not be able to love you in that way (maybe your friend suffers from addiction or struggles with abuse), so who, then, can show you that love?

Well... yes, your family, your spouse, perhaps.  But, more importantly, Jesus.  Jesus is basically a never-ending supply of love.  When you are close with Him, and are praying and receiving the sacraments, it will be easier to love others.  God is love.  So, if we are not close to the one person that IS love, how would we be expected to love in return?

I have some of THE best friends a girl could ask for.  Our friendships are not perfect.  We get frustrated.  We get jealous.  But, we alwaysalwaysalways want the best for each other no matter what.  We want to grow in holiness and closer to the Lord.  With that comes loving each other not for what we get out of it individually, but what we can do for the other person so they can be the best version of themselves!

I hope that all made sense!  Ha, what do you think?  Be sure to check out Morgan and the rest of the ladies, too! :)

Survey/Random Facts time!

I feel like we know a lot about one another, but don't know the everyday things that make us... us!  So, this week is a little lighter on the content and more about getting to know each other! Have fun!

~ Age
~ Area of country (no need for specific location on the interwebz)
~ Are you working? If so, what do you do? Or, are you in school?
~ Family (let's see some pics!)
~ Confirmation Saint
~ Favorite Gospel?
~ # of previous relationships (ya know, that required a FB status change!)
~ Top 3 qualities you are looking for in your hubby
(b/c, hey, maybe we can help each other out! Cousin? Coworker?)
~ Online dating experience? Advice?
~ Advice for a single lady
(in tweet-like fashion, 140 characters or less)

September 3 (WHAT?! How are we talking about September already?):
Follow the Peace
(a followup to my post on following the peace a while ago.
What brings you peace? Are you able to do those things?
If not, what's preventing you?

September 10:
Is it possible for a woman to pursue a man?
(what do you think about THAT?!)


  1. It makes perfect sense to me. ;-)
    I love the idea of the paper your professor gave you. It seems daunting, but I for one would love to have written and taught about love that extensively.

  2. Sorry if I got babbly with my suggestion, I tend to babble when I'm not sure how I even want to explain what I am trying to say.

    I probably would have screamed (silently of course) after the professor gave that paper, probably overthink it a lot and then write about a million drafts (I still remember my Sociology papers).

    I think your post made sense to me, love isn't a straight forward thing or equal or perfect or easy.


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