|Living chastely (not just abstinence) is a choice. |
Have you ever had to defend your choice to live out chastity?
If not, why do you choose chastity?
After reading what I wrote before... I have to quote a few gems. (btw, do you ever re-read your stuff and think, "wow! I wrote that?! Amazing!" No? Just me. Well, ok.) I said some pretty great stuff, so if you don't want to go back and read the whole thing... I will just quote my faves:
"...one can have an active sex life AND be chaste or abstain from sex and be unchaste. These two things are not the same."
"We all have natural desires. It's how we handle them and what choices we make that allows us to live chastely."
"I don't want to do something that jeopardizes the love that I have and will give to my future husband, and that of God."
"I don't want to tempt myself, or set myself up for disappointment. I want to trust the Lord and His will with everything."
I haven't had that many people question what I am doing. For the most part since I have chosen to live a chaste life post college (again this does not just mean abstinence, b/c I made a commitment to that when I was 16), I have surrounded myself with people that are striving to live the same life. When you surround yourself with people that have similar goals, it's so much easier to live out your life. Ya know?
That being said, I am still friends with quite a few people that are open about having sex, living with their boyfriend/girlfriends, etc. And, really... I am in the minority. I get that. So to most people, I am the one that is living a weird life.
But, who cares?! I choose this life because I truly believe it's the best way to live. I don't have to worry about giving pieces (or all) of myself to someone, and reaping the ramifications of feeling used or unloved if somethings not right, or living up to unrealistic expectations, etc. Does that make sense? I don't want to look at movie/TV scenes where things get a little risqué... because that is not reality. I want any sort of intimate life I have to be with just my future husband. It's something special that I can offer to him, and him alone. How cool is that?!
But most importantly, I choose this life because the Lord is calling me to something greater. He is calling me to a great love with Him. As the Youcat says, "unchaste behavior weakens love and obscures it's meaning" (pg. 220) Living a chaste life is really choosing to love yourself, your future spouse and God even better.
As I said before... it's a choice that I make every.single.day. I do it for my heart. For my soul. For my future hubby. For my relationship with God.
And for me... there is no better reason than that.
What about you ladies?! Why do you choose to live the chaste life?! Get your link-up on below!
Announcement: WE HAVE A FACEBOOK GROUP!!! :) It's a closed group, which means, you must send a friend request to Morgan and/or me! Once we are FB friends, we can then invite you to the group! Woot! The group is open to all of you ladies who participate in the NAS, but also anyone who happens to read along. Seriously ALL ARE WELCOME! :) So, if that is something you are interested in, please get on that! Especially if you are going to Savannah! We will for sure be using that to get information out there!
Savannah Update: Morgan and I have a gchat video date this weekend to hash things out. So! Next week, hopefully we will have some more deets!
If only I knew then what I know now...
What would you tell your former self about being single if given the chance? What have you learned that you wish you could tell your younger self?