What are those things that you want to do before you get married (or enter the religious life)? Is there anything that you are excited to do, accomplish, etc before engagement, marriage and babies come along? Even if you feel that you've done everything you wanted to do pre-marriage, dig deeper and see if there isn't anything you'd like to do!
When Morgan and I first brought this topic up... I immediately thought that I have pretty much done all the things on my "bucket list." I have never really been a bucket list person... I have never been one to desire jumping out of a plane, climbing Mt. Everest, walk across America, etc. Ok, yes... those are extreme bucket list items, but I think it serves a point. I am not one to make a list of things to do in my life... because I end up putting a bit of unnecessary pressure on completing the list. I am a rule-follower by nature, and if you give me a list of things to do, I am going to try and do them. And do them well.
I already put way to much pressure on myself in many aspects of my life, I don't need to make a list of things to do just for the added experience. I have such a full and wonderful life. I have had some of the most amazing experiences and opportunities. I am seriously so blessed. I went to a college where I found God and discovered my heart for service. I became a nurse and worked at one of the premiere pediatric facilities in the country. I served in Honduras. I learned another language. I have been to so many countries in this world. I had an audience with the Pope. I have moved more times than I can remember. I became a godmother to one of the most adorable little girls I know. I have always wanted to live near the beach, and I do.
I mean... the things that I have done make up such a full "bucket" that I can't possibly think of other things that I need to be on the list. Don't get me wrong, there are things that I would like to accomplish or do, but they don't need to be done while I am single. I want to run a half-marathon (which will hopefully happen in 2014). I want to go to Greece. I wan to own a home. But, those things can happen at anytime. And if they don't happen, I don't think I will feel like I missed out on living my life. Well, maybe Greece. But, I am super hopeful that maaaaaybe I can pull that off as a honeymoon option! ;)
If I had to pick something for my Single Life Bucket List... it would be this: to be proud and confident in who I am; in who God has created me to be, so that I can be the best version of myself.
I guess I am at a point in my life where I am ready to share the fun and exciting things of this life with someone. I desire to create a bucket list, if you will, with my future husband and family. Whenever that will happen, only God knows. I am not going to stop living my life by any means. When opportunities for travel and new experiences come up, I will without a doubt jump on board. I need to continue to heal past wounds and learn how to be the best version of myself before any of those things can happen. And that's what I intend to do.
What's on your bucket list? Join the conversation over at Morgan's today! :)
We have all thought about our list of qualities for our future spouse (and maybe even religious community), but sometimes those can be pretty limiting on who God has planned for you. Instead, maybe think about the few things that are so important to you, that if a guy you were considering dating (or community you were entering) didn't have those things, you would have to move on. Why are those things important to you?
Beginning of the Year Goals + Lent!
Remember our first post this year? How are the goals you set going? Regardless of how your goals are going, how are you utilizing this Lent to continue to strive for those goals?
Do's and Don'ts of First Dates
What are those things that we should be doing, and the things that we shouldn't be doing? They can be from the physical parts (clothes to wear, places to go, things to say) or emotional parts (talking about it all the time, planning the future, etc). We can all learn something in hindsight, so what are your tips to share?
How do you combat being selfish with your time? As a single person, it's easy to get caught up in our own little independent world. There are those moments when we are needed for extra church things, hanging with our friend's kids, getting caught up with something on the one night you could stay in, etc. where we get frustrated that the needs of others are taking away from our own time. How do you avoid this selfish tendency and what do you do to avoid becoming frustrated with "sharing" your time with others?
Most of us here feel called to the vocation of marriage...but what is it exactly that you're attracted to? What have you seen in others' marriages that you've learned from or would do differently? (maybe this is from married friends or your parents!)