Not Alone Series: Getting back to it!!

WE ARE BACK!  Back, again!

I have missed our weekly chats SO MUCH!  Ladies, are you ready?! Are you excited?! I hope so!! Because, I AM!

If you are new, WELCOME! We are SO happy to have you. Check out the tab above for more info about who we are and what we do, but basically: we are bunch of single women, who are continually discerning the Lord's will, getting together each week to chat about anything and everything that pertains to our singleness, while loving, encouraging and growing in holiness. (Phew, I think that was a run-on!) Not a blogger?! It's ok! There are many people who just read, sometimes comment, along... and that's perfectly fine. But, we do have a Facebook group to help foster more of a community with everyone! Please consider joining! :) Also, prayer. None of this is possible without the Holy Spirit's guidance. Morgan and I are so thankful to God for this entire series and all of YOU who participate, read and pray for us.

Ok! Let's get this party started!

We are back! As we get into the swing of things with NAS, what other ways can we be more involved at church or in our communities? Is there a parish ministry you have been wanting to help with or start up? What about that after school program for homeless kids? Has something been preventing you from getting involved? How do you think this will help you personally, spiritually and emotionally?

As Morgan and I have been emailing and planning and emailing about the topics for the next little while, it has definitely gotten me excited for the series to start back up, but also inspired me to be more active... outside of work. Yes, work keeps me busy... and most days when I get home from work, all I want to do is sit on the couch and do nothing. Nothing.

But, this is not good for me. I need to be around people. It really doesn't matter who, I just need to have some conversation, laugh, and hang out with others to remind myself that I am not alone in this world.  It's taken me a while to realize how true this is for me. To get more involved means to take some sort of risk and put myself out there.  That is the hard part for me. Not the being around people, but ultimately having the confidence and trust in others (and God) to be myself and know that I am worth being around.

It takes practice. Ya know? The more I get involved and put myself out there, the easier it will be for me to know that I am worth it.  It's why I have become an Extraordinary Minister of the Eucharist, volunteer with the youth group, and most recently decided to take the role of Young Adult Program Coordinator. This last one is really going to push me, as the group of young adults that meet already are very close, and that's a bit intimidating. But, I know it will work out, I just need to keep going.

As I have reflected before, God's plans are sometimes different than my own. If I had it my way, my parish would already have a vibrant young adult group, and there would be no need for me to step up to help. The youth group would have an abundant amount of volunteers, and they wouldn't need me. But, see... that's just not the case.

The more I am involved, the more I realize the need for young adults in our parishes. We constantly say that there needs to be programs/events for us, yet we don't want to take time to help figure the logistics out. We say we don't know anyone, but we don't want to get involved with anything that doesn't have young adults already involved. But, what if God is asking you to step out? What if He wants you to do something that is a little uncomfortable because it will help you grow and stretch, and help you understand that your parish isn't just solely about you and your needs?

Our parishes, and communities, are very much like our families: weird, fun, sometimes loud and obnoxious, but also imperfect. No parish or community is going to be doing every.single.thing. right and just how YOU want it. But, that doesn't mean we should wait for things to change on the sidelines. We are called to step outside of ourselves and serve one another, and this most definitely includes our parishes and communities. Isn't this what love is all about?! This article (which fostered some great discussions in our FB group) does a great job at reminding us single people of just that.

This is why I am not a huge fan of "church hopping." In a sense it's very selfish (and anyone who does this, I am not judging! I definitely did this for a long time, and it's only in recent years have my eyes been open to the benefits of being at one parish).  Maybe God is asking you to commit to your parish/community. To get involved more. To take a leap of faith, even if it's uncomfortable!

What do you think? How involved are you in your parish/community? Could you do more?

I can't wait to read! Morgan is hosting this week, so please head over there to linkup and read what everyone else has got to say! :)

Blessings and prayers,
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  1. Jen, I loved your line "What if He wants you to do something that is a little uncomfortable?" - it totally spoke to my heart!! :) How awesome that you have gotten so involved with activities outside of work! The kids in your youth group are lucky to have you! :)

  2. I completely agree about the importance of having a parish "home"! It really does make a difference to have a place you belong and just find a way to serve the people around you instead of finding a church that is serving all your needs. Good luck with your new role as young adult coordinator! Can't wait to hear how that goes!

    1. Yes. And I think it's so easy to forget that we are called to love and serve in all aspects of our lives. Church does become more about us, because we always want to be closer to Christ... but I do think there is something about serving others and giving of ourselves that draws us closer to Him, as well. :)

  3. So many great thoughts to chew on and consider. I especially am interested in the idea of creating what you want to be in your parish is obviously alot easier said than done. The whole idea of a home parish is also something I haven't put to much thought into. Because my mom works for a Church, we all worship at another Church however we still belong to both and are very involved in both in very different ways. However the one we worship at is very much home. As I create roots of my own I want that parish that becomes home, after I parish hop a bit to figure out which one that is.

    1. Yea, that is an interesting perspective about belonging to one parish and working at another. I know many families that do that!

      And, I for sure hopped around a lot when I was living in DC before I settled on one and got involved. I think that it's important to find a parish where you feel like you can be most yourself, especially when you have that option. Unfortunately not everyone has many churches to choose from, ya know?

  4. Great thoughts, Jen!! And YES, I agree about the church hopping! All parishes, like families, have issues but you don't give up on them! You help be the solution with prayer and active effort!

    1. Yup! Not giving up! That's so true. After a while, it's so easy to throw your hands up and feel hopeless if things aren't going how you like. But, it doesn't mean that things will NEVER change. Prayer and vigilance and acceptance are definitely needed! :)


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