NAS: Dating fast?

Hello! Hmm... I've been a little MIA lately. Not on purpose, but as many of us know, when life gets busy, our blogs take the backseat. :( It makes me sad... even though I know it's fine. It's not the end of the world. But, I miss it. I miss YOU! I have so many thoughts to share, half written posts, topic ideas written in my journal... and, hope! Hope that I will get them written and get this blog rolling again. :)

Thank you for sticking around. Thank you for reading. And thank you for your patience!

Ok! Back to Not Alone Series and this week's topic: dating fasts.


We've all likely heard about them, but have you ever done one? If so, what was your experience? If you haven't, would you consider doing one? Why or why not?


Well, I have never done one.

I haven't really thought about it, other than those moments of "boys are stupid and I'll never date again!!"

But, I have taken breaks, per se. Life unfolds in ways that for a few months, I focused on the things in my life, my relationship with God, my job, etc which turned out to be times that I did not date. Which, in a sense is a fast from dating.

I suppose the difference is the intention. I have never intentionally not dated.

To be fair, I haven't dated a whole lot. So, sometimes I feel like my whole life is a fast from dating! :) Obviously that's not true. I've been on dates. I have been active on Catholic Match. If I was truly on a dating fast, I would be fasting from those things, too.

At this point in my life, do I think a dating fast is for me? I will have to say no. In the last year, I have learned so much about myself, God, love and what I am looking for. These are things that could potentially come out of a dating fast. This is not to say that I couldn't benefit from going deeper on those things, of course, but I don't feel like that's the way to do it for me. I am happy with where I am right now... and if I am completely honest, officially being in my 30s (ha!) does ring true the whole "time is ticking" business! ;) I am completely open to finding my husband, however and whenever that should happen!

We touched on this in our Facebook group recently, the whole idea of the men we know, meet, or hear of as our brothers-in-Christ. When we focus too much on dating, getting married, what it's like to be a wife, we lose sight of the fact that men, first and foremost, are our brothers, and not some object to obtain in our lives, and perhaps, even more, that our vocation isn't just a game to win. It's a gift, a calling, that should lead us to sanctity. Our path to sanctity could be as a wife, but it hasn't happened yet. The more we focus on finding our husbands and marriage, we lose the focus on how God is calling us to holiness right now.

I am guilty of this. Many of my friends are guilty of this, as well. Taking a break from thinking about guys, a dating fast, or whatever you want to call it, allows us time to focus on the things that truly matter. God should be at the top of that list. Hopefully we can take that time to better ourselves, our relationships, take risks on the things that matter to US, and not what we think will matter to our nonexistent boyfriend/husband. Which will, hopefully, then re-focus our sight on our path to holiness and that of our brothers and sisters.

What are your thoughts on dating fasts?! I can't wait to hear! Link-up below!

NEXT WEEK
Encouraging Men
We seem to always have something to say about guys treating us right! ...or, not right! But, what does that mean? Have you ever thought to share those insights so guys have a better idea on what to say/how to act? Well, let's do it! What are some good habits guys can take up when dealing with us ladies?

March 17
Challenge!
It's that time again! In the past we've challenged ourselves to grow and/or take steps toward moving closer to our vocation. These challenges have come in all different forms! Being active with online dating, getting more involved in young adult ministry/parish life, and working on bettering my prayer life have been personal challenges. What is one thing you want to challenge yourself to do that might help you along your path toward's God's will... or maybe just help you become more open to God's will?
Share what your plan is and why, then in 2 weeks we'll write on how this challenge went!!

March 24
Lent
We're more than half way through Lent... how's it going?! What did you decide to give up/take up? Did you make any spiritual goals? How have you grown thus far and how do you hope to make the most of the remainder of the season?

March 31
Expectations vs Reality... of the Single Life
Have you ever had people in your life who have expectations of what your life is like, as a single person? Do friends or family ever make assumptions about your life simply because you're unmarried? Did you ever had expectations about being single which turned out to be different than the reality? How do you manage the expectations of others with the reality of your day-to-day?

April 7
Challenge Check-in!
A couple weeks ago, we set to challenge ourselves! What did you decide on and what did you end up doing? Was this a fruitful experience for you? Why or why not?

April 14
Christian Friendship
What does it mean to be a friend based in Christ? Do Christian friends hold each other higher? Do we hold each other accountable? How do these friendships differ from non-Christian based friendships? Do they differ? Is one better than the other?

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2 comments :

  1. Jen, I'm totally with you on the idea of the dating fast ... but you wrote it much more eloquently! And I'm pretty excited about the upcoming topics ... there are some good ones in there!

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  2. God IS calling us to holiness! Yes! As I expressed it to my college students once, if you've ever wondered what God wants from you, he wants you to be holy. You know that without a doubt, and he will want it from you for the rest of your life. Everything else is secondary. :)

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