Therapy is awesome.

A little over a year ago, I made a phone call.

A phone call that would change my life.

I reached out to a therapist.



Yep. A therapist. *gasp*

You guys, perhaps you remember... I was not in a good place. I was on a seriously large struggle bus, for a long time, and I didn't know how to get off of it. Dare, I say... I was depressed.

What I realized in 2014 is this: God took care of me in a way that I wasn't really expecting. He put people in my life when I needed them to be there. To help me. To love me. To remind me of His goodness.

One of those people is my therapist.

Thank you, Jesus, for that man. God bless him. Seriously.

I've been working with him for the last year... and I am in a COMPLETELY different place. It's seriously amazing. It has not been an easy road... nor do I look back fondly on all of the conversations. It's hard to let go, to talk about things that you've never talked about before, face your insecurities and doubts head on and cry. A lot.

But, I have learned so much. I have grown so much.

And, I want to remind myself (and you!) that it's ok to talk to a therapist. 

There have been many, many times throughout the last year that I have really beaten myself up for talking to Dr. P, and wondered if I really am crazy. What 29/30 year old still has all of these issues? Who is going to love me once they know that I have all of this baggage? Perhaps these incoherent, stringed together words are a sign there is something really wrong with me! Who holds on to things that happened when they were so young?

Things like that. Things that satan is trying to twist to make me feel like I am so wounded and so broken that nothing/no one will be able to help me. It's a lie. A complete and total lie.

Many times I have to keep repeating that to myself, especially after the sessions when it was really hard. Where there was lots of crying. And even more questions. I am enough. Nothing is too big or too deep that the grace of God can't heal and make new. 

Nothing.

I am sharing this to help wash away the stigma that therapy is only for crazy people. I mean, we all have a little crazy in us (!), but just because we seek counseling doesn't mean we are weird or worthless or less than. We all desire to be the best person God called us to be and that may require some outside help. The reality is this: life is hard, sometimes, and we all have wounds. There are times when we have to open up those wounds so they can heal properly. To talk about the areas of our lives that we choose not to share. To learn more about ourselves in a way that is constructive, intentional and healthy. God has called many people to help us do just that.

If you are feeling like you need to speak to someone, please do. Pray about it. Talk to your parish priest. Your spiritual director. A close friend. Anyone that you can trust who will encourage you to talk to someone. If you don't have someone, email me. :)

Will you continue to pray for me?! I'll be praying for you.



Here are some resources that may help you find someone:
Catholic Therapists
Exceptional Marriages


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10 comments :

  1. Thank you for sharing this, Jen. I'm so glad you've got people who love you and are helping you. I wish we all had that, and I wish everyone knew how to seek out helpful people when they need them. Thank you for sharing this part of your story! :)

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    1. :) Thank you for your encouraging comment! It's true... not everyone has the benefit of having wonderfully, supportive people in their lives. It's sad, really. But, we can pray and be there for those people when they reach out and need someone. Sometimes, that's all they need!

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  2. I love how brave and open you always are. Satan is the king of lies always whispering to our insecurities and pain so it is a blessing to have someone saying it is okay to ask for help. Thank you for this honest post. You are always in my prayers

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    1. Ah! Thanks, Niki! I really appreciate that. Thank you for your prayers, too! I am always praying for you.

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  3. Thank you for this honest and open post about your positive experience with therapy. :) Thanks also for the links; I will add them to my list of referrals for clients. You will continue to bei n my prayers.

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    1. Thank YOU for being so encouraging! :) You never know how people will respond when you open up a bit more... so, thank you. And thanks for the prayers!

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  4. Jen, thank you for this post and for giving me the courage to start therapy last year!!! You are in my prayers, lady!!!! :)

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    1. :) :) I've had such a positive experience... so any time I can encourage others, I will!! ha, and thank you for the prayers! Praying for you!

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  5. Hey Jen ... I'm on spring break and finally getting to catch up on my Feedly which is why I'm just now sending a comment. Thanks so much for this post. I am 30 years old and have seen a very helpful therapist, and although he released me almost a year ago, I'm thinking about going back again. I've had many struggles culminating in a big one about two years ago. These things you say -- Who still has all these issues? Who will love me with this baggage? -- sounds an awful lot like me. I really appreciate you opening up. I wish more people would.

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    1. Hi Anna! Thank you so much for commenting. :) My spring break is next week... counting down the days!!

      Thank you for your encouragement. And so awesome that you have sought some help, too. It IS amazing, ya know?! It's not easy, nor fun, but so worth it. I will pray for you... if you feel it on your heart to start it back up again, I would listen. It doesn't have to be as regular or for as long of a time, but reaching out again could do you a world of good! :) I don't know you, of course, but from another lady seeking to be the best they can be to another, listen to your heart. :)

      Annnnnd yes. Those freaking lies the devil says, I hate them. I sometimes I believe them. And then God's grace shines and I remember that He loves me, just as I am. Baggage and all. And, as hard as it is sometimes, He is the most important person to give me that love. And, you too! :)

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