NAS: This World Isn't All About Us

Last week we discussed all the things we loved about being single!!  I loved reading all of the posts... some were insightful and raw, others were downright funny.  I just love this series because everyone is so different... it's just awesome.

So, in talking about the things we love about being single, obviously it was all about us.  I know there were a few of you that mentioned being able to pray more on your time or volunteer or whatnot (which is so great and true), but my list was kindaaaaaa allllll about me.  All the things that I could do/see/experience/etc.

Which is maybe why Morgan and I decided to have this weeks topic be about the things we can improve.  I mean, it will not be "all about me" forever.  It's great to be reminded that being single isn't really the worst thing in the world, but it's also great to be reminded that this world isn't all about us.  Jesus walked this earth for every single person, to love and serve them... you, me, your family, the people that live in the tiny village on the other side of the world.  Everyone.  And, He called us to do the same.
Be serious and sober for prayers. Above all, let your love for one another be intense, because love covers a multitude of sins. Be hospitable to one another without complaining. As each one has received a gift, use it to serve one another as good stewards of God’s varied grace. Whoever preaches, let it be with the words of God; whoever serves, let it be with the strength that God supplies, so that in all things God may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom belong glory and dominion forever and ever. Amen. 1 Peter 4:7-11
Yes, it's incredibly overwhelming to think about all ALL THE THINGS we have to/should be doing to live as Christ taught.  But, for the sake of this series (obviously) I am only talking about things that I can be better at NOW to serve my future hubby and children.

I don't really like talking about things like this.  I mean, who does really?  Do you know anyone that's like, "Oh I love talking about the things I suck at and how I should improve them and then actually fail at again. It's just SO fun!"  Um, I don't.  And that would be weird if someone does.  Anyway, I have to try really hard to not go down a dark path of I am so horrible.  This is why I am single.  What is WRONG with me?  Ugh... it's not pretty.  But, it has to happen sometimes, ya know?  If I want to improve... I have to look at these things.  If I want to be the best version of myself, I have to look at the things that need to change.


Charting- I have talked a bit about my NFP journey on here before.  But, I've been prettttty horrible at it lately.  I keep telling myself, "it's ok. I don't need to know this 100% yet... I'm not married. It's not happening right now. It's fine."  But, you know what's funny about God's timing... things happen when you least expect it and maybe when you aren't thinking about it.  So, if I keep doing what I am doing, I will be in panic mode before my wedding trying to make sure I really understand this NFP-ness.  It's just silly.  This is the easiest and most practical thing I could be doing right now to prepare for my marriage.  If I've got it down, it will be easier to teach the hubs and be less of a stressor when we are first married.

Prayer- I mean... I am not even going to go into this.  This is by far the BIGGEST and most important thing that I need to improve on.

Patience-  I am a pretty patient person... but I can be pretty quick-tempered.  I mean, I realllllllly loathe bad customer service.  Let's not talk about that too much, mmmmk?  But, I also find that when little things don't go my way or someone says things a certain way (I am a wee bit pretty darn sensitive, too) I get frustrated right away.  I sigh.  Roll my eyes (to myself, never, ever at the person... I promise, mom!  At least I realllllly hope I don't.  Ugh).  It's my gut response.  And, that's not too good.  I don't act on those frustrations, for the most part, but I need to find a balance of being SO frustrated with a little more patience.  It will help when things don't go my way in my future relationship.  How do I get better?  Um, pray.  And, practice... with friends.  Situations at work.  Maybe even some bad customer service situations.

Learn and Watch- by this I mean... read more books about healthy, Godly marriages.  Hang out with married couples that I admire.  Listen to what they say about marriage.  Learn the effective ways of communication.  Basically, immerse myself in all things good, holy and healthy marriages.  It's where I will really learn what things I want to be part of my marriage or I don't.

Ok, I think that's enough for this post.  There is a TON more that I need to work on.  But, having these in my face is a good start to really give me the nudge to get working.  I will be praying for you all, and the things that you need to work on, as well.

Hosting again b/c Morgan is on vacay.  I hope you're enjoying your fam, girl!!

Next Week:
Despair and Vocations
The lovely Amanda suggested this topic... here is what she had to say:
Most of us have times where we despair about our vocations, or, if we know them (i.e. marriage), we despair that they will never be fulfilled. How do we deal with that despair and what are our best tips on moving past the despair into hope?

Thank you to everyone who provided feedback last week!  We really appreciate it.  We are still chatting about what changes, if any, need to be made!  We will keep you in the loop, promise!  See you next week!


  1. It's hard to look at yourself honestly, past your own walls. I know that I have this version of how I see myself, but having to peel it away for this post was painful!

    I like how you included observing healthy, holy marriages for one of your improvements. I have been trying to read about more, too! I actually find reading about marriages so intriguing and awesome.

    1. Girl, I just read your post. It was truly amazing. :) I know... it IS painful to look at ourselves in this way. But, just like the soreness we get when we exercise really well, the pain is good! We know that we are doing it right!

      And, I LOVE reading about marriage and being inspired byt awesome couples. :)

  2. Thanks for the reminder of patience. Yesterday the 4 month old I nanny was having a bad day and screaming so much I almost couldn't take it anymore. I realized how much I needed to grow in patience and offer it up. Also this morning our Internet wasn't working and I wasn't able to have my morning me time drinking coffee, creasing blogs and writing this post. I was so frustrated but had to take a step back and grow in patience.

    1. Oh gosh... that would have been hard for me too!! My anxiety level rises SO much when I cannot console a baby. When I am at work and that happens... man oh man.

      YES. I have this crazed anger when things with technology don't work. It's so stupid. It's completely out of my control... and I want to laugh at how ridiculous I am being, but I am too upset to do that. What is up with that? Is it a generation thing, maybe? Ugh. I have to work on that, too.

      Thank you Natalie for helping me realize more areas for improvement. Sheesh. ;)

  3. I know I need to work on my patience as well, those ingrained responses.

    I also try hanging with my married friends and reading some good books to immerse myself in all things healthy, good, holy marriages.

    This is a great post.

    1. We had some similar things in our posts!! Thank you! :)

  4. Great post, Jen! And yay for a fellow singleton charter! Although, tbh, I am slacking in mine...just more filing away mental observations b/c sleeping in an un-airconiditioned apartment ruins my temps. Plus, I'm thinking the "modified-Marquette" my diocese offers will be what I use in marriage, and can't exactly justify the expense of a monitor and strips quite yet...and of course, prayer and patience are like the two biggest things (and my two hardest virtues to retain!) :P

  5. LOVE this! Totally true about charting, I didn't even think to add that to my post! It is funny when I tell my guy friends that I chart, some of them think it is weird, some of them have no idea what I'm talking about, and other guys think it is about the coolest thing in the world. I love that it is such an easy way (once you get used to talking about mucus) to minister to people and spread the good news about womanhood and the way God designed our bodies. Love. It.

    Praying for you!


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