NAS: Chastity {A Choice}

Living chastely (not just abstinence) is a choice.
Have you ever had to defend your choice to live out chastity?
If not, why do you choose chastity?
We are diving back into chastity this week!  I know we have discussed it before, but there is always so much to talk about, isn't there?!  We were just talking about our thoughts in general, what it means to us and why it's important.  But, today... today we are getting a bit more personal. We are talking about the why. Why we choose this way of life. Why we think it's good and important. And what we say to those that don't get it.

After reading what I wrote before... I have to quote a few gems. (btw, do you ever re-read your stuff and think, "wow! I wrote that?! Amazing!" No? Just me. Well, ok.)  I said some pretty great stuff, so if you don't want to go back and read the whole thing... I will just quote my faves:

" can have an active sex life AND be chaste or abstain from sex and be unchaste.  These two things are not the same."

"We all have natural desires.  It's how we handle them and what choices we make that allows us to live chastely."

"I don't want to do something that jeopardizes the love that I have and will give to my future husband, and that of God."

"I don't want to tempt myself, or set myself up for disappointment.  I want to trust the Lord and His will with everything."

I haven't had that many people question what I am doing.  For the most part since I have chosen to live a chaste life post college (again this does not just mean abstinence, b/c I made a commitment to that when I was 16), I have surrounded myself with people that are striving to live the same life.  When you surround yourself with people that have similar goals, it's so much easier to live out your life. Ya know?

That being said, I am still friends with quite a few people that are open about having sex, living with their boyfriend/girlfriends, etc.  And, really... I am in the minority. I get that.  So to most people, I am the one that is living a weird life.

But, who cares?!  I choose this life because I truly believe it's the best way to live.  I don't have to worry about giving pieces (or all) of myself to someone, and reaping the ramifications of feeling used or unloved if somethings not right, or living up to unrealistic expectations, etc.  Does that make sense?  I don't want to look at movie/TV scenes where things get a little risqué... because that is not reality.  I want any sort of intimate life I have to be with just my future husband.  It's something special that I can offer to him, and him alone.  How cool is that?!

But most importantly, I choose this life because the Lord is calling me to something greater.  He is calling me to a great love with Him.  As the Youcat says, "unchaste behavior weakens love and obscures it's meaning" (pg. 220)  Living a chaste life is really choosing to love yourself, your future spouse and God even better.

As I said before... it's a choice that I make I do it for my heart. For my soul. For my future hubby. For my relationship with God.

And for me... there is no better reason than that.

What about you ladies?!  Why do you choose to live the chaste life?!  Get your link-up on below!

Announcement: WE HAVE A FACEBOOK GROUP!!! :)  It's a closed group, which means, you must send a friend request to Morgan and/or me!  Once we are FB friends, we can then invite you to the group! Woot!  The group is open to all of you ladies who participate in the NAS, but also anyone who happens to read along. Seriously ALL ARE WELCOME! :)  So, if that is something you are interested in, please get on that!  Especially if you are going to Savannah! We will for sure be using that to get information out there!

Savannah Update: Morgan and I have a gchat video date this weekend to hash things out. So! Next week, hopefully we will have some more deets!

Next Week
If only I knew then what I know now...
What would you tell your former self about being single if given the chance? What have you learned that you wish you could tell your younger self?


  1. Love, love, love how committed all these beautiful ladies are to living out God's plan! You go girls! Also, I'd love to join the FB group, but I have no idea how to find you guys on there since I don't think I have last names. I'm at

  2. Awesome!! I also don't know how to find you guys, but my Facebook username is 'Claire Writes' and my profile picture is cartoon me! :P

    1. Ignore that, I figured it out, and you should have a friend request from me :)

  3. I also would like to join the group. I really enjoy reading the posts in this series!

  4. I sent you a facebook request to join the group :) I'm in another Catholic Singles FB group but it has been quite inactive maybe we'll just merge :)

  5. Haha Jen, I sometimes do the whole "I wrote that?" thing, that made me smile! :) Such a great post with so many amazing lines in there, but it's so true...why give the biggest gift - ourselves! - to someone who is not our forever??? And I totally would love to join the FB group, I sent both you and Morgan friend requests! :)


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